Hmm…
I had a discussion with a friend recently regarding friendships and what not…and here are some things that I’m now pondering…
So, what do you do, when you realize a friendship from your own perspective seems to be "give give give"…and that the other person is so wrapped up in their world that they don’t even realize that they’ve become a taker? And well, yes, most people’s reaction would be to say "tell the person" but that isn’t always the right answer. If they aren’t willing to listen, what good is it to tell them this and potentially create strife? What do you do?
On the converse of this, what do you do when you know you are the one constantly taking? IE: the other person won’t ever seem to let you be the giver? As in, they flat out refuse repayment of anything (in money, gift or deed).
Now, let me note that there are exceptions, or periods in all friendships where someone is giving and taking more than the other, but eventually it flows the other way. And I’m not speaking to those periods as that’s just a friend being there for another. I’m speaking to when they are consistently one way.
I’m big on friendships being a 2 way thing…and I never know what to do with any relationship that turns 1 way.
