So, someone I knew from a former "life" apparently has been diagnosed with cancer of the liver.  His story can be found here: Dave Cho. I am amazed at just how quickly and agressive his cancer has turned out to be.  Basically, they discovered it a couple of months ago (approximately), and at this point, there is nothing that can be done, but hospice care.  He has been given approximately two months.  The most tragic part of this all, is that they have 4 really young kids…with another due mid-June.  Wow.  Complete and total suckage in ways that words just can not accurately describe.

Selfishly, I am kind of glad I am not in a position where I would see his wife….that sounds harsh, but it’s because I really have no idea what I would EVER say to her.  I have so many questions that are just not appropriate to be asked of them.  She’s been a stay at home mom, and he’s worked for the church.  And even if she did go back to work, she’s about to have a kid, so I imagine it’d be difficult to find a job right now.  Besides, who could look for a job instead of spending every waking moment with your husband until he’s gone?  I just can’t imagine what I would ever do in her situation.  I just hope there are plans in place to help her after.  Thankfully, hospice will be a huge help to them, and will also discuss with them the issue of "Advanced Medical Directives" or "Do Not Resuscitate" orders.  It’s rare that someone in hospice care doesn’t have a DNR…resuscitation is actually a pretty cruel thing to someone who is terminally ill.  It’s not exactly a "gentle" medical procedure.  I can’t imagine being 8 months pregnant and dealing with this.

And yes…my mind works in really weird ways, from thinking about the financial/sustenance aspect to the medical aspect.

If by some weird coincidence his wife sees this, or someone that knows her sees this (the latter is actually probability), please don’t take offense to any of that. I truly do feel absolutely awful for them.  I in no way can imagine what any of them are dealing with, and I hope I never do.  I also sincerely hope that Dave lives long enough to see his fifth child, and that all goes well with mom and baby during that.  I almost feel overwhelmed at all of it FOR them.